We are all conditioned to move towards happiness and away from pain and discomfort. People hire therapists to find out what is wrong with them and to receive treatment for their problem. In my experience clients rarely lack knowledge of what is wrong with them or what is needed to improve. Self-motivation to change is always the limiting factor.
My personal transition from Behavioral Therapy to Professional Coaching was a natural and succinct improvement resulting in quicker and sustainable results for my clients. Coaching is action oriented which always results in goal achievement, whether the client and I are dealing with addictions, anger management or obesity. My philosophy is that we devote 5% of our energy on the problem and 95% of our energy on the solution. I have found that therapy is often the other way around which explains why many people remain in therapy for years instead of days or weeks.
People struggle with taking consistent action – applying what they know on a regular basis. We are all self-driven by nature but have grown mentally lazy as a result of faulty acquired mental programming. We have been taught since birth to depend on people and things instead of our self. People are also conditioned to believe what someone tells them often accepting it as fact at face value without verifying on their own. We forget about our intuition – our internal truth gauge that is available at every moment to not only direct our lives but to also verify whether someone or something is correct.
We do not have to wait until we experience a massive amount of pain to get motivated to change. A good sign of emotional maturity is the ability to recognize when a life adjustment is needed and begin taking action right away. Pain is a great motivator no question about that, however in my experience it is best not to wait until something major happens to change course because we are not always given a second chance such as in the event of a heart attack resulting from a lengthy sedentary lifestyle.
Change starts and ends with self-honesty which is born of self-love. Self-love is inherent in our nature however because of our acquired emotional and mental baggage we forget who we really are. No matter what anyone says about you, what matters most is what you think about yourself not what others think of you. Once you get beyond just intellectually understanding this and you come to know this as truth, that you are the source of your own psychosis change starts to happen.
We must wholeheartedly take full responsibility for ourselves and realize there is no benefit in living below our potential. The momentary comfort that we experience by remaining complacent and content causes inevitable regression as growth is a continual process of forward motion.
Abandon disempowering mental dialogue, and make a commitment to live your best life and fulfill your potential because we do not just affect ourselves when living a sub-standard life we affect all of humanity.
Kevin mendez - Spirit holds the answers. Love is your best option. Intuition is your internal guidance system that should be consulted regularly.
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